… but around me, the preference for light skin prevailed. To the beholders that I thought mattered, I was still unbeautiful. And my mother again would say to me, ‘you can’t eat beauty. It doesn’t feed you.’ And these words played and bothered me, I didn’t understand them until I finally realized that beauty was not a thing that I could acquire, or consume - it was something I just had to be.
And what my mother meant when she said ‘you can’t eat beauty,’ is that you can’t rely on how you look to sustain you. What actually sustains us, what is fundamentally beautiful, is compassion - for yourself and for those around you."
Lupita Nyong’o at Essence’s Black Women in Hollywood Luncheon
I implore everyone and anyone to watch this snippet of her speech. She’s incredible.
And another instance where media and visibility most definitely matter.